Post 7: Shit hits the fan, again.

My day was going normal until I get a call from Mandi. She asked me if I have check my [personal] email. in which case I haven't. So, I told her I would.

My mother again is trying to be the "Hero" (A classification I learned in Marriage Matters) with the following email:
Hi Mandi,
I just don't know how we ended up with this wall between us.  But for the sake of Chris and the family, can we please start over?  I would very much like to resolve these hard feelings.
I will be honest with you and let you know that we were horrified that you'd cheated on Chris!  However, Ed and I realize that it is between you and Chris and that it is not our place to stick our noses in.  Our only excuse, is that we love our son so much and want only the best for him.
You and Chris seem happy now and we are happy for you both. It has come to our attention that you don't want Chris to see us.  We have already apologized for previous shortcomings on our part. If your parents lived close by and Chris told you not to see them , I'm sure you that would offend and hurt your feelings.  All in all, we feel most of this stems from your feeling that we do not want to see the children or to babysit them.  That's just not true!  We love to see our Grandchildren but in some cases you and Chris  inconvenience us and the kids by not being clear about when they were coming over or how long they were going to stay.( ie , The time we asked you to come home from the wedding at 10 pm because the kids were unhappy and wanted you not us that night. We didn't call you for our best interest but for theirs.)  I'm sure you understand their needs come first.
We would love to see the kids , however Ed and I are very busy now and do need notice so we can plan for that time.
Please understand, we do not hate you or even dislike you. You are our daughter in- law and part of our family.  We hope you will want to be part of our family too.
I've tried several times to reach out to you and this is my last ditch effort to get us past this.  I thought we were friends at one time and I'd like to get back to that relationship one day.
Please let me know if we can have a friendly relationship with you again.  I miss the fun and laughter we used to have.
Sincerely,
xxxxxxxxxxx


So, after I read it I was like "What the Fuck!" I am just starting to feel better again, and again, my parent had to hit the hornets nest. Why did she have to mention the cheating! She could have made her point without adding that! My dignity has been in the shitter for a long time. Lets see why shall we?

• My wife has fucked another guy last March when we were separated, and I did nothing about it.
• I can't afford to move out and start over, and pay for my kids.
• I get paid a shitty salary!
• Both of my kids are autistic.
• My parents suck.
• Mandi's boss gives us money to feel like his is helping someone in need.

It's a damn miracle I haven't fuckin killed my self or somebody else yet.


Oh, and some of the facts in there are a little off, and some left out. During the wedding we got two phone call, the 2nd at 9:00pm when they told me that we had to come back.


And, "busy"?


My Mom doesn't work. She spends her time with her new puppy (a poodle) dressing it in outfits and IMing her sister. Dad works a lot, but what is with this "We" bullshit?


Not only that, but this letter make me feel like she thinks I am a shitty parent. This their needs come first. Well, she should have took her own advice when it came time to help me.


I am trying so hard to forget the past and forgive for their and Mandi's wrongs to me, but this shit makes it really hard to forget anything.